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Deleyna Marr's avatar

I raised a couple of kids like that.

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

I'm pretty sure we ALL get at least ONE of those in our lifetime. Might be a child OR a grandchild, hehe. This was a story form my daughter, about my grandson =)

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Deleyna Marr's avatar

Someone once told me that the snark was annoying in a kid but would be great in an adult. Since that particular child is now a fantastic adult, *now* I understand what they meant. It is rough being a kid when you have such big thoughts. LOL

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

HAHAHA -- agree 100%.

I am a firm believer that the roughest and strongest willed kids are always the gold that can be refined in life. The key is avoid killing that will...and it's a hard, hard task.

Pull up your bootstraps, cause yer going for a ride, mom & dad.

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Deleyna Marr's avatar

Exactly! Keeping that strength and helping them to learn how to harness their super powers is vital. And it really helps if you can avoid killing the kid at the same time!!!

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

Hahaha, wish I could get my wife in on this conversation. Personally I call it their potential and value, but I prefer your “super power” better.

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Deleyna Marr's avatar

One of my "extras" recently tried to suggest that their neurospiciness was a disability that a parent had not treated properly when they were a kid. I pointed out (to very successful individual whose success comes from extreme intelligence triggered by unique learning style...) that parent had a choice. Treat it as a disability and drug kid into uselessness or treat it as a superpower and teach them to use it. Now, modern treatment would be different, but at the time, these were our alternatives. Given this more historically grounded choice, "extra" agreed that Mom had in fact been amazing.

Context in parenting... is a rough concept!!!

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

AHAH!! That is a subject most people will not have a conversation with me on...context over content.

I personally believe society is taking crappy paths and medicating things they don’t like or want to deal with. More of those superpowers you speak of.

Hyper and hard to focus? Oh, we should drug them, not understand and work with them!

Utter horse crap I’m many instances, IMO. It’s also called being a creative child.

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

Another aspect of context over content, is when you disagree with a person, or judge them harshly.

If you take the time to ask someone, “what’s your story?“ You may have an eye-opening conversation. You learn about someone, their past, their choices, and the decisions they had to make to get where they are right now.

You just may find that if you had the same situation, had to make the same choices, you might be worse off than they are!

That’s the power of context. It helps soften our hearts, and maybe, just maybe, have a little more compassion for our fellow human beings.

Just a thought.

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Deleyna Marr's avatar

Love that so much! And that's it exactly. Understanding people's stories make the world so much richer.

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

Bingo.

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💎 Jaime Buckley's avatar

One of the things that I’d like to point out to parents, is to take the time and remind your children who you actually are.

To share with them, that, even though we’re parents, we are only a little further down the same path they are traveling.

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