One of my "extras" recently tried to suggest that their neurospiciness was a disability that a parent had not treated properly when they were a kid. I pointed out (to very successful individual whose success comes from extreme intelligence triggered by unique learning style...) that parent had a choice. Treat it as a disability and drug kid into uselessness or treat it as a superpower and teach them to use it. Now, modern treatment would be different, but at the time, these were our alternatives. Given this more historically grounded choice, "extra" agreed that Mom had in fact been amazing.
One of my "extras" recently tried to suggest that their neurospiciness was a disability that a parent had not treated properly when they were a kid. I pointed out (to very successful individual whose success comes from extreme intelligence triggered by unique learning style...) that parent had a choice. Treat it as a disability and drug kid into uselessness or treat it as a superpower and teach them to use it. Now, modern treatment would be different, but at the time, these were our alternatives. Given this more historically grounded choice, "extra" agreed that Mom had in fact been amazing.
Context in parenting... is a rough concept!!!
I raised a couple of kids like that.